PSA: Breaking Wheaton's Law

[solace_aderyn]

I've gone through my friends list and done some pruning - mostly people who are only presenting a negative influence on my life, and/or who respond negatively to anything positive I state, and who won't create a discourse to address or fix this.

I'm a fair bit broken mentally right now, and it's been exacerbated by these actions amongst others. I'm having to deal with the consequences of selfishness, deceit, and bitchiness, both directly and indirectly. I've also had to accept dealing with the loss of a friendship I held very dearly for a long time due to some negative responses, and through no fault of my own other than just being me.

I'm glad that there's only a few people who have given a negative influence, but a few is still too many. Those who are opening a discourse towards problems or hurt - thank you. I will respond when I can. Those who haven't - there's no excuse to be a dick, and you have been to either me or someone I love. I don't need or want that in my life. I cannot influence the way you treat who I care about, but I can influence the way you treat me.

I'm also taking a break from online participation aside from this post for a while, as tbh it feels like I'm just shouting into the void, so I'm going to stop and instead work out where to use best what few spoons I have.

Comments

[sashajwolf.livejournal.com]

I hope the break helps. Thank you for using some of your limited spoons to support me recently (and on previous occasions.)

[solace-aderyn.livejournal.com]

You're very welcome - being there for other people is core to me, so thank you for accepting it, too.

[trishpiglet.livejournal.com]

I ditto this a lot.
You have been consistantly awesome to me.

[janieluk.livejournal.com]

Good luck with the spoons. I'm hoping to regain energy by heading somewhere quieter and posting online *more*, perhaps somewhat counterintuitively.

[xmakina.livejournal.com]

I hope the break brings you the recharge you need. You know where you can find me and fred_wednesday if you need to get out of London for a weekend; crash space and/or cuddles and/or bad movies are always available.

[ludy]

wishing you more spoons - hoping the break helps

[farnam.livejournal.com]

Sending virtual thoughts your way

[notintheseheels.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear you've been going through tough times. Fwiw I don't see you very often but I think you're awesome.

[snork-maiden.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear you're having tough times at the moment. I would like to send you many virtual thoughts of kindness that come wrapped in more spoons. I think you're awesome and I hope the break does you good.

[friend-of-tofu.livejournal.com]

Really sorry to find out about all this stuff. I'm a bit broken too right now, so I hope things pick up for you. I've just done a contacts post to ensure I don't lose touch with people I like because of general faff, so if you'd like to keep in touch by other means (eg email), please let me know & I'll try to improve my communication skills.

Sending positive thoughts in your general direction.